After three hours of psychological testing and a week of anxiously waiting, the psychiatrist told me I don’t have BPD, I am schizotypal. Of course all I heard was the schizo and cried.
I am so tired of crying and wanting to be “normal.” My SO acts like mental illness is a farce because there is no medical proof. I reminded him that there was no medical proof for cancer years ago. That gave him pause, but he still doesn’t believe it. He thinks that it’s just another thing for me to blame. “If you give it a name and energy, it’s already won.” No, if I give it a name and energy, I know what I’m battling. As the kids cartoon shows used to say, knowing is half the battle.
Right now I’m just exhausted and I’m not sure I’m up for the other half of the battle.
The suicidal thoughts have gotten better with the antidepressants, but I still wonder if my family and friends would be better off without me.
So after I regained my composure and went home, I did some research. Here is what schizotypal PD is:
Schizotypal personality disorder signs and symptoms can include:
- Being a loner and lacking close friends outside of the immediate family
- Incorrect interpretation of events, including feeling that external events have personal meaning
- Peculiar, eccentric or unusual thinking, beliefs or behavior
- Dressing in peculiar ways
- Belief in special powers, such as telepathy
- Perceptual alterations, in some cases bodily illusions, including phantom pains or other distortions in the sense of touch
- Persistent and excessive social anxiety
- Peculiar style of speech, such as loose or vague patterns of speaking or rambling oddly and endlessly during conversations
- Suspicious or paranoid ideas, hypersensitivity, and constant doubts about the loyalty and fidelity of others
- Flat emotions, or limited or inappropriate emotional responses
Signs of schizotypal personality disorder, such as increased interest in solitary activities or a high level of social anxiety, may be seen in the teen years.
While some of the symptoms match my behavior (the ones in italics), BPD is still more similar. Or so I thought until I found this site:
Out of the Fog explains that STPD can have a variety of symptoms beyond what the DSM Criteria for Schizotypal Personality Disorder (STPD) states. These include the majority of my symptoms:
- Always/Never statements
- Anger
- Avoidance
- Blaming
- Catastrophizing
- Circular Conversations
- Depression
- Sense of Entitlement
- Fear of Abandonment – HUGE for me
- Identity Disturbance
- Invalidation
- Lack of object constancy
- Low self-esteem
- Mood Swings
- Shaming
- Splitting
This feels like it came on suddenly, while I know I’ve had it my whole life. The dramatic escalation has been recent. So if it came on so quickly, why can’t I make it stop just as quickly? So sick of fighting it and being exhausted.
My SO is tired of it and emotionally exhausted by it as well. At least he can walk away from it and not have to face it every day when he wakes up. I don’t know how I’m going to get through this. Just so tired.